An alcoholic did not start that way but grew to become that way, he probably started with drinking a bottle of beer but now drinks to stupor.
The same can be said for a chronic masturbator, before it became an addiction, it was probably what you will do in hiding once in a while but it has constantly grown to become what you cannot do without on a daily basis.
Negative habit grows if not tamed, it start small and then begin to throw its tentacles around you to see your reaction, and if it sees that, there is no response to stop it from, it then grows into an addiction.
The sad thing about addiction is that, your feelings, emotions, will necessarily not affect what you do. You may cry all night and even promise not to masturbate or smoke again and the next day you are right in the very act again.
Below are 4 things you do that increases the urge for porn
- WATCHING MOVIES
You feel the urge (which comes like a press in your body) to watch porn and masturbate, then you respond by performing such actions.
That is what you mind calculates but there is actually a step before the urge that many don’t pay attention to which is the “trigger/cue”.
Every habit start from this place, something either visible (what you see or hear) or invisible (a smell or a sound) in the environment has triggered that urge which has resulted in you engaging in the unwanted act.
Explicit content has become an integral part of movies
Now we all know that a major selling point in the movie industry in this current era is actually explicit content.
We would only deceive ourselves if we say, there is one best-selling movie today that does not have one or two very intimate and explicit scene.
You cannot constantly see and hear those things they do in films and not be under the torture of porn.
This videos and images will constantly be the trigger for you to always watch porn and masturbate. I know you love watching movies but your future is far more glorious.
So, if it means stopping movies for your glorious future then it is worth it.
2. STAYING IDLE
When you are idle, you are ultimately going to get bored and the resultant effect can be another round of porn and masturbation.
Addiction thrives on idleness, when it sees that your mind is not productive it brings in negative thoughts that will birth negative actions
Fill the void the movie left
When you stop watching movies or stop checking those porn sites or porn related images, you must understand that, it doesn’t stop there, because there is a void that must be filled up.
This is where you definitely have to replace it with something productive and exciting, like learning a new skill, or picking a job that keeps you away from staying at home all day, the goal is that you are engaging in productive activities, be it in church, school, at work or anywhere possible.
Please understand that, it is too dangerous to leave the void left by that addiction open, because it leaves you extremely vulnerable to succumb back to that nasty habit.
3. KEEPING QUIET ABOUT IT
I really can’t tell anybody, I know I will defeat porn all by myself, this are the words you keep telling yourself every day, and three good years has come and gone, and there is still no change.
You have to face the reality and be truthful to yourself, if I can defeat porn all alone, then I would have done it by now. Porn is a nasty thing and it can keep you bound for many years, so playing around it can be very dangerous for your future.
Now is the time to tell someone about it, not just anybody but someone you trust and can really be of help to you. It could be a family member, a close friend, your pastor, but you must really be honest and opened to them.
I know the shame and guilt that you feel inside about doing this, but in all sincerity, opening up is a big step in the right direction.
4. NOT EXERCISING/ WORKING OUT
Exercise is an effective way to both lower tension and positively focus energy.
Activities such as running, swimming, and weight lifting can strengthen the body and release endorphins that promote feelings of well-being.
Feeling happier and more relaxed may reduce the urge to watch porn and masturbate.